The above quote is a great expression of the power of words. For thoughts are words said unto one’s self. The words we use are an expression of one’s beliefs and also have the power to change one’s beliefs. Parents and business leaders have authority and so do their words. As a parent you words have power over your children. You have the ability to positively influence them and with that the responsibility not to harm them. Though it’s been said, “that kids don’t hear what you say because they are to busy watching what you do,” they are listening to what you say about them.
I read several books and articles that tell you to say something along the lines “what you are doing is bad, but you are not bad.” It’s the “hate the sin not the sinner philosophy.” I agree especially with young kids. For many parents they often find this difficult because they feel like all they do is discipline their children. With a 19 month old and a 4-year-old at home some days I feel like all I ever say is “(insert child’s name) stop doing that, don’t do that, no, no, no, not now, when you are older, etc.” I’m sure you have your share of favorites.
A good friend of my said while all that is necessary what is mort important is how you speak about your child directly to them and about them to others. If you remove all of the day-to-day management speak with your children what are you saying to them. What are they saying to you? It is important to speak words of greatness over your children and your self. The words you speak to them help shape the way they speak to themselves and ultimately what they believe about themselves. Speak to them the way you want the to be and not how you think they are. Just for a moment read this with the voice of Joel Osteen, “You’re an amazing child, one who is honorable, who has a loving heart. You are filled with the love of God and confidence comes from him. You can be what he has called you to be, you are victorious in life, you are called to be great and to excel, you are a champion, and I love you. ” Say powerful words to yourself , your kids and your team each day.
Have you ever heard the stories from adults who talk about their childhood and how their parents spoke to them. I have been in groups where grown men are still hurting from being told they were “no good, worthless, a bad kid, etc.” I’m sure you have heard all these before. Put yourself in the position of a child. Your five or six or sixteen and your parent who you look up to as your hero is saying bad things about you. The logical thing for a child to think is, “if dad is saying it, then its true.”
Watch your words. They have more power than you know. Use them for good.
Till next time know that you are a more than capable child of the most high God and he loves you more than you can know.
Joseph
Joseph Cortez 